She has played Priscilla Presley, survived an alien attack on screen, and earned a Golden Globe nomination before turning 26. Cailee Spaeny has quickly become one of the most talked-about young actresses in Hollywood.
But while the world has been dissecting every role she takes on, one part of her life has stayed almost completely off the record: her romantic life. For years, the only name attached to hers in that department was Raymond Cham Jr., a fellow actor she was first publicly seen with back in 2018.
They never made loud announcements. They never gave magazine exclusives about their love story. They just showed up, occasionally, together. And then, at some point, they stopped.
Here is everything that is known about Cailee Spaeny and Raymond Cham Jr., and why there is still so much that remains unanswered.
Who Is Raymond Cham Jr.?
Raymond Cham Jr. was born on December 30, 1996, in Los Angeles, California. He is an actor and director, known for his roles in The Big Leap, The Idea of You, and Sort Of.
He is also notable for playing Mark Walker in the Disney XD series Mech-X4 and portraying Devon in Teen Beach 2. His guest credits span shows like Grey’s Anatomy, Jessie, Shake It Up, and Criminal Minds: Beyond Borders. He has also appeared in music videos for Ludacris and Willow Smith, and has performed on Dancing with the Stars.
Of multiracial background, his father was Haitian and Nicaraguan, while his mother is African-American and Korean. He grew up in Southern California with his mother and, in addition to acting, has developed an interest in creative writing, working on pilot and feature film scripts.
He is not a tabloid fixture. He does not court celebrity coverage. Records of his dating history and partners are largely absent from public record, and he has no active social media presence to speak of. In many ways, he and Spaeny are cut from the same cloth when it comes to keeping their private lives private.
When They Were First Linked
Around 2019, Cailee Spaeny began publicly dating Raymond Cham Jr. They were first spotted together at the 2018 GQ Men of the Year Party in Beverly Hills, where she accompanied him to the event.
That first appearance set the tone for everything that would follow. No red carpet announcement. No joint interview confirming the relationship. Just two young actors at a party, photographed together, giving just enough for the world to piece things together on its own.
The following year, in 2019, Cham and Spaeny were among the familiar faces at the Miu Miu Club event in Paris. A fashion event rather than a formal Hollywood occasion, it felt consistent with who they were as a couple: present, stylish, but not performing for anyone.
In 2020, they were photographed together in Los Angeles, wearing face masks and holding signs as they joined protests in front of LAPD Headquarters following the death of George Floyd. That image said something different than a red carpet photo. It showed two people who shared not just a personal connection, but a set of values they were willing to be visible about together.
Joint Interview in The Bare Magazine (2021)
By July 2021, the couple had given the public something remarkably rare: an actual joint interview.
In a conversation with The Bare Magazine, both Spaeny and Cham opened up about how they had influenced each other’s style. Cham joked that Spaeny had encouraged him to embrace his softer side and that he had started getting his nails done. Spaeny, for her part, admitted to regularly stealing his vintage T-shirt collection.
The exchange was light, affectionate, and genuinely revealing. It was not a formal relationship announcement, but it was close. The interview gave the impression that the two were sharing a living space, given how casually they spoke about borrowing each other’s clothes on a regular basis.
Their last confirmed public appearance together was at the Tribeca Festival after-party in New York City in June 2021, just weeks before the magazine interview was published.
That would turn out to be the last time they were photographed together in a public setting. The Bare Magazine interview remains, to this day, the most substantial on-record conversation either of them gave about the relationship.
How Both Keep Their Relationship Private
Even at the height of their time together, Spaeny and Cham never turned their relationship into a public narrative. There were no Instagram couple posts. No joint press appearances for each other’s projects. No acknowledgment in awards show speeches.
Both were described by observers as very private about their romance, with their 2021 Tribeca appearance being one of their last known outings together.
Cham’s absence from social media made it even harder for anyone on the outside to track what was happening in his life. No posts meant no clues, no soft launches, and no accidental confirmations. For a couple in an industry that practically runs on personal branding and public narrative, their discretion was notable.
Spaeny’s own Instagram told a similar story. Her account focused almost entirely on her career rather than her personal life, offering no direct indication of who she was or was not in a relationship with.
The one exception was a reel she posted from Paris in July 2019, where Cham appeared alongside her on the banks of the Seine. It was brief, unannounced, and easy to miss if you were not already looking.
What Is Known About Their Current Status
Observers began noting that Spaeny and Cham no longer appeared to follow each other on social media, which many interpreted as a sign that the relationship had ended. Neither has been spotted with the other at events, press conferences, or public appearances in recent years.
During the Alien: Romulus press tour in 2024, Spaeny was seen attending all appearances alone, and there was no indication of a partner in her orbit during that period.
When Priscilla brought Spaeny into an entirely new level of public attention in 2023, the resulting wave of media coverage and fan curiosity produced a new round of relationship speculation. Her on-screen chemistry with co-star Jacob Elordi sparked rumors that quickly made headlines.
Spaeny addressed those rumors directly in December 2025 on the Today show, describing Elordi as a dear friend and explaining that the karaoke photo on his phone’s lock screen came from a night out celebrating his work rather than anything romantic.
As of early 2026, neither Spaeny nor Cham has confirmed a breakup, a reconciliation, or any update on their status. The answer, as far as the public record goes, simply does not exist.
Why Spaeny Chooses Privacy Over Public Romance
Something is telling about the fact that a woman who has played Priscilla Presley, one of the most famously watched and controlled women in pop culture history, is someone who guards her own private life with this level of care.
Spaeny was the seventh of nine children, raised in Springfield, Missouri, in a deeply religious household where she described her upbringing as structured and faith-centred. She left school at 13 to pursue acting, a decision that required her entire family to adjust their lives around her ambition.
That background shapes everything. She did not grow up in an industry family. She did not arrive in Hollywood already accustomed to cameras or cultivated for celebrity. She came from a place where personal life was personal, and she appears to have carried that value with her.
Director Sofia Coppola described Spaeny as someone who can express a great deal while barely doing anything, noting her rare ability to say so much with just her face and her eyes. That quality, the ability to be deeply present without giving everything away, seems to carry over into how she handles questions about who she is when the cameras are not rolling.
Spaeny’s career has moved fast and in demanding directions. A franchise film, a prestige biopic, a critically acclaimed war thriller, a horror sequel, and now a Knives Out installment, all within a handful of years. She is not someone who appears to have a great deal of free time, let alone a desire to spend what she does have managing public perception of her love life.
The Raymond Cham Jr. chapter of her story remains one of those things that was never fully opened and may never be fully closed. Two young actors, building careers at the same time, sharing clothes and values, and at least a few years of something real. What happened after 2021 is theirs to know.
And from everything Cailee Spaeny has shown about how she moves through the world, she would like it to stay that way.
